Losing trust in a relationship is a very difficult experience. If your partner does something that makes you not trust them, you can be plagued with feelings of anger, hurt and sadness. It's very important that your partner understands the emotions that you are feeling, because it can help you move forward and get rid of any negative feelings.
However, if your partner is not willing to try to understand, the person who was hurt in the first place tends to want to get even. To try and make the other person feel as awful as they are. When someone doesn't understand your hurt and pain, it's human nature to want them to hurt as well.
A lot of the time, if someone is accused of doing something wrong, they tend to want to apologize, make up excuses, or want to attack the person who is attacking them. In the long run, these things never work, because they fail to help create any real form of understanding.
If you are trying to rebuild trust, it is very important to see things from the other persons point of view. Do your best to understand how they are feeling. You have to learn to agree that their feelings are legit and fair. Let them know that you get why they are feeling that way. If you are able to do this, then it will be that much easier to regain their trust.
If you are able to make the effort to understand their feelings, than you have a better chance of them calming down, and eventually forgiving you. If you do not make that effort however, regaining their trust will be all but impossible to do.
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